When asked to explain what polyamory is to mono/vanilla (manilla!) friends, I use my wife’s Cheese Theory.
What’s your favorite cheese? Well, since you can’t answer me, we’ll just say it’s cheddar. That cheddar is our marriage and it’s our favorite, favorite cheese! But, she says, we’ll be dipping into that cheddar for the rest of our lives. And just because that cheddar is your very favorite, you can still love Gouda and Edam. And when you’re feeling totally crazy, some havarti and cheddar fondue, well, that could just blow your mind! But your enjoyment of the mozzarella doesn’t diminish your love for the cheddar. You always come back to the cheddar.