I have been coming out to more of my non-poly friends lately. I have noticed a pattern emerging when I come out to my male friends. I tend to get the same three questions.
You mean… like swingers? No.
Are you and your wife still…? Yes.
Does she see other people too? Yes.
Huh. Cool. Anyway…
As I get more and more comfortable with it, it is easier to be more open and out. Tonight at our local big box chain tex-mex restaurant (which serves guacamole made table-side so I can get it without cilantro) I was sitting at the end of the table between wife and GF, holding both of their hands. I was at my usual level of PDA, again with both or them. I wonder what our waitress thought.
Still, I did rein myself in after I almost dropped a, “my wife’s boyfriend,” at work… but I’m getting there.